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 Post subject: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 6:39 am 
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What's your thoughts? My wife and I are going on Jam Cruise but she's not into the festival scene or Jam Band scene for that matter. I upgraded to nice cabin to help. I showed here videos from YouTube and she did not say anything. When I said that I'm nervous about her not enjoying herself she said me... me to. I told her to just be open minded and go with it. She said she's going... Right. Anyway just venting and wanted to know your thoughts. Should I not talk about it and let things happen?


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 8:04 am 
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It is really difficult to NOT have fun on JC. Obviously, you have to enjoy music...but other than that it is a ship filled with kind-hearted people who smile at you for 5 days. And you're floating in the middle of the ocean. And you stop at beautiful ports.
Sleep when you want, eat in the dining room, talk to people, give her the freedom to NOT hang in the jam room until 4 am, take advantage of the ports if the music/crowds are not her scene, relax.
It's Jam Cruise. No worries.


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Tue Sep 17, 2013 11:31 am 
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monmouth18 wrote:
she's not into the festival scene or Jam Band scene for that matter


Jam Cruise is, IMHO, like taking the best land festival you can think of (if you ARE into the scene) and pumping full of steroids. And then crack. It is the ultimate in both ear and eye candy. I therefore think her mind will be blown. Whether she decides that's a good or a bad thing, I can't speak to, as I don't know her.

What DOES she like and get into? It is a huge ship, I'm sure she could find quiet spots for reading or sunworshipping, spend time gambling in the casino, get some spa treatments, there are usually some fun and funny daytime activities like bingo or the gong show she might enjoy (I dont think they've announced activities yet), etc....

But this IS a ship of freaks (and I say that in the most loving way!) and while you can avoid the music and people somewhat, if she doesn't like to *be around* those often rowdy often costumed often intoxicated (always smiling!) masses she may not enjoy the trip very much.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Wed Sep 18, 2013 8:04 pm 
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this won't be the first time someone who dosen;t like the music or scene has gotten aboard the ship. and in 95% of the cases I have heard of the person loves it. usually for different reasons than the rest of us freaks, but still usually loves it. tons of great people on this boat


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Wed Sep 18, 2013 8:24 pm 
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monmouth18 wrote:
What's your thoughts? My wife and I are going on Jam Cruise but she's not into the festival scene or Jam Band scene for that matter. I upgraded to nice cabin to help. I showed here videos from YouTube and she did not say anything. When I said that I'm nervous about her not enjoying herself she said me... me to. I told her to just be open minded and go with it. She said she's going... Right. Anyway just venting and wanted to know your thoughts. Should I not talk about it and let things happen?


You and I are in the same boat (no pun intended). My wife had the same reaction before we got on the boat (JC10), and now Umphrey's is our favorite band, and we both mourn the end of the New Deal. A lot of the allure is actually seeing the shows, just be easy-going and I have no doubt she'll have a great time. Meet lots of people!

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 2:03 pm 
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My husband is into the jam scene, but he has some trouble feeling comfortable in crowds. On our first JC, I made sure to carve out some "us" time for him. Some ways to do that:

-Request a private table for dinner (but not EVERY night, because being seated with other folks makes new friends). The hosts might grumble a bit, but they'll honor your request.
-Sign up for a shore excursion for a change of pace
-Find a private spot on the island
-Get a couple's massage
-Grab two seats in the back of the theater when everyone else is up front
-Find quiet conversation spots on the ship (there are lots of infrequently-used areas, or areas that are periodically unused).


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 2:42 pm 
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Also you might have to work out an agreement that you can be off enjoying music without her and not have it create any jealousy or resentment.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Thu Sep 19, 2013 4:58 pm 
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longhairedfreak007 wrote:
Also you might have to work out an agreement that you can be off enjoying music without her and not have it create any jealousy or resentment.


and remind her that the music often goes til 6am =D

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 2:24 am 
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Tai wrote:

and remind her that the music often goes til 6am =D


And that will allow her to wake up and say good morning to you as you say good night to her and before you go to bed, the two of you can meet in the buffet lounge for limp translucent bacon.


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 9:12 am 
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My wife doesn't go as hard as I do on Jam Cruise and since I am with my closest 2-3 thousand friends she does not worry about me.

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 10:17 am 
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ludlow66 wrote:
My wife doesn't go as hard as I do on Jam Cruise and since I am with my closest 2-3 thousand friends she does not worry about me.


Same here. My guy doesn't rage quite as hard as I do. He's better with sleep. But this vacation is more an individual than couples experience for us. You can make it whatever you want. She will have a good time. Bring her to us ladies and we'll put sparkles on her and dress her up. I'm in room 13132. I always bring extra costume stuff to share. Also, we should have a forum meet up on the first day, so we can meet you guys there. I know enough people who didn't come for the music but still love it. I mean, look at Aslan. She calls herself "a fan of the fans".


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 10:21 am 
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And one more thing...I think the golden ticket in situations like this is to remember to bring watches. That way you guys can set times to connect if you decide to go separate ways.


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 4:59 pm 
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Hillary wrote:
And one more thing...I think the golden ticket in situations like this is to remember to bring watches. That way you guys can set times to connect if you decide to go separate ways.


Don't count on cell phones for this task as some of them don't keep time in off shore waters, at least mine did not


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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 5:08 pm 
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I know there is a whole thread on the pros and cons of watches somewhere in the dungeons of the forum but the only time I wear a watch is on JC. It helps me to keep on schedule and it is a great way to meet people as they always ask me what time it is :shock:

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 Post subject: Re: Relationship issue and Jam Cruise
PostPosted: Fri Sep 20, 2013 5:51 pm 
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Discount Christmas watches are perfect for the boat. No big loss when they break and sure do look classy!

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